Transitions can be tough. A transition is when you’re in between the past and the present. When your in between there can be moments of doubt and insecurity.
You can be easy to get distracted waiting for a new thing to come to fruition.
It’s said that when one door closes another opens. The hallway between can get confusing and full of doubt.
You think you know where you’re going, and you know you don’t want to go back to where you came. Sometimes you can’t. You’ve got to move forward.
But the little voice inside your head is screaming. Why? Because you are no longer in your comfort zone, and change can be scary.
It’s part of life, and we all face it at some time or another. To paraphrase an old quote if you’re not moving towards something, you are sliding backwards. So the trick is to get comfortable with discomfort. Yes, easier said then done. This is when you have to tell yourself small steps are ok.
In life we are either moving toward pleasure or away from pain. Once you understand your motivation, it’s easier to move.
Why did you want to to change? One scenario is because staying where you are has become unbearable. So in the scenario, you want to move away from what ever is unbearable, right?
And now we are in that hallway of the transition. The trick is not to be afraid, but to embrace the joy and excitement of moving toward something new.
OK, how? Keep focused on your “prize”. Do one small thing each day that will move you toward that goal. Maybe keep a journal of your progress or make a dream board if you are a more visual person. The point is to keep it in front of you.
If you are still afraid, talk to someone. Share your dream, wish, goal. Tell them how you want to make your life better.
Not everyone will understand, but it is not about them. This is yours.
If you would like to understand more about the transitions happening in your life, contact me, and we can talk about it.

I Feel Like Chicken Tonight.

I love pasta. It is so easy. this recipe is easy and nice and garlicky. yum!

Grilled Chicken Penne Al Fresco

1 BULB garlic
2 C grape or cherry tomatoes
3 C uncooked mezze penne pasta
3 C chicken broth
3/4 C dry white wine such as    …more

Italian Wedding Cake


Tell me am I a little off because I like to read cookbooks. At one point I had a whole kitchen cabinet devoted to cook books, diet books, and magazines related to food.Unfortunately, when I moved to Kansas, I had to cut down. I kept my favorites. I still surf the web looking for ideas. What am I looking for? Recipes that are inexpensive, but taste that way, anything chocolate, and twits on my favorite comfort foods, and dishes I’ve tried in restaurants that I think I can redo at home.

And on that note, years ago, so coworkers and I were having dinner and a local Italian restaurant (yes, it was a chain) in Little Rock, OK North Little Rock, (known better for bar b.q. and soul food, but that is for another post). We had a really good dinner and followed with dessert of course,

Meatball Stew

Meatball Stew
Servings: 4


12 ounces frozen fully-cooked beef meatballs (about 23 meatballs)
1 jar (12 ounces) beef gravy
1 can (8 ounces) stewed tomatoes, undrained
3/4 teaspoon dried thyme
1/8 teaspoon pepper
1 package (16 ounces) frozen vegetable mixture (with potato)


Combine gravy, tomatoes, 3/4 cup water, thyme and pepper in large saucepan; bring to a boil. Stir in meatballs and vegetable mixture; reduce heat. Cook 10 to 15 minutes or until meatballs are heated through, stirring occasionally.

Thanks Hen House.

Wow, really?…

A year has passed since I posted anything on this blog. Wow, really?

Life as been busy. Finding a new job in a new city an exploring my new environment. Life in the ‘burbs is different. Sometimes I really miss the natural silence.

Oh, there is the natural silence here, I just have to get up and go find it. It’s no longer I matter of stepping out the back door and settling on the porch with a cup of tea.  Now it’s get in the car, and drive out-of-town to find it. Oh, well that was then… time to forge ahead.

When you’ve been on vision quest for a long time, the transition back can be startling if you don’t do it right, and the insights you gained come trickling back. Thank God/Goddess it’s not coming in a giant rush all at once.  That would probably be quite disturbing.

I’ve been at my job for a year, and I’m thinking about the future. what is it that would cause me to change? Yes, there are somethings that need to change: First would be the attitude. I find I have very little tolerance for whining, complaining, gossiping, and  blaming. I know there was time in the past, i would have all over it. right in the middle of the fray. I am glad that is over.

Now I want to encourage others to give up the blaming, gossiping, etc. You know you would be amazed at how good you’d feel when you stop doing those things.

I think though, what really, needs to happen is to get back on the horse.. as it were… Continue my spiritual questing, and journalling. Find my true calling. I guess that is what you are suppose to do when you realize that 50 is right  around the corner.

Ask, listen, and follow your heart.  It is time to  create your own dream.



Medicine Men


Witch doctors, medicine men, shamans, wise-women were the healers of our past. They were the doctors and pharmacists that everybody went to for their aches and pains. They knew all about the natural world. They could heal almost anything with a few herbs, roots, and blessing or two.

Today medicine seems to forget that we it hold its roots to the old ones. It seems pharmaceutical companies are always trying to come up the new drugs for new illnesses. Sometimes I wonder though, which came first the new disease or the new medicine for it.

It is my personal opinion that we should pay more attention to nature to heal our bodies and less on synthetic drugs. Have you read the list of side effects that some of these medicines have? Sometimes , it seems they are worse then the original disease. Of course it does lead into a vicious cycle. Because then you need more drugs, to cure the side effects, and ah, more horrific side affects, more drugs.

Yes, there are side effects to using herbs also. So why not learn. Early medicine did. Willow bark became aspirin. The first diabetes medicines were based on things like cinnamon and other spices that will lower blood augur. Digitalis, which is a flower is still used in heart medicine.

So really, were the old ones really so “Hocey”? It is also found that the power of the mind can do a lot for healing as well. So, I say the next time you need to take a pill, say a blessing or a little prayer, it might work faster.

We’ll talk more about mind power later.

What inspires you?

So, I have have a question? yes I’m through whining for the moment, What really inspires you? What keeps you motivated to keep going, to keep pushing ahead?

Many of us today are in jobs we hate, because we don’t think it is a good time to do anything else.  At least for the moment, we have some security, or illusion there of.

I would like to share a poem by one of my favorite classic writers.  It’s kind of famous, but it still speaks volumes.

it is called


If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings—nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run –
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man my son!

I think it is perfect for even these strange times.